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Bill Cosby AKA Pill Cosby

Trigger warning: this episode involves in depth discussion of sexual assault and rape.

In this episode Jessy and Rebekah start off by discussing the fact that the Golder State Killer got caught (big ups to Michelle McNamara) and then, as if you thought that wasn’t dark enough, things get more serious. Your favorite almost-famous podcast hosts then discuss the details of the Bill Cosby is a rapist situation that has been unfolding. And it’s about damn time people talk about this since the first allegations involve something that happened in 1965. That was 53 years ago, Vaginalings. And finally, the ladies try to lighten things up by pulling out some results of a 2014 Bill Cosby meme generator gone wrong. The results are mixed.

  • 01:03: Jessy and Rebekah celebrate the arrival of the warm weather! But we all know what arrives with warm weather…creeps, and lots of ‘em.
  • 01:48: The Golden State Killer AKA the East Area Rapist AKA the Original Night Stalker AKA the Visalia Ransacker was finally caught! His name is Joseph DeAngelo and it’s about time that mother fucker got got. You can learn all about him by reading Michelle McNamara’s book I’ll Be Gone in the Dark or listening to episode #1 of My Favorite Murder where Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark talk about the East Area Rapist or episode #118 where the duo reflects on the arrest of a suspect in the decade-long rape/murder/ransack spree.
  • 03:03: Not only does he have two (or maybe three) children but they are daughters. DAUGHTERS!
  • 03:18: He actually called and taunted victims as recently as 2001, not 2000 as Rebekah stated.
  • 03:53: Rebekah was referring to Gary Leon Ridgway, AKA The Green River Killer, who is proven to have murdered 49 people but is suspected of killing at least 90, most of whom were sex workers.
  • 05:18: Jessy and Rebekah begin the real reason for this episode: a discussion of Bill Cosby (insert vomit emoji here).
  • 08:58: *** In September, 2005 Bill Cosby admitted in a deposition that he gave young women Quaaludes in an effort to have sex with them***
  • 09:28: Here is a link to part of Hannibal Buress’ October 16, 2014 bit when Buress really went after Cosby. This had been a part of his bit for a while but this particular performance is credited with bringing Cosby’s actions into the light.
  • 14:18 This article by Noreen Malone in The Cut gives detailed accounts from 35 of Bill Cosby’s accusors.
  • 16:47: According to RAINN, 7 out of 10 rapes are committed by someone known to the victim. Some organizations report that rate as being as high as 9 out of 10 victims although that usually applies to college campuses.
  • 17:18: This doesn’t just happen around the rich and famous. Jessy and Rebekah discuss some reasons why victims of sexual assault don’t come forward and tell their own stories of being victims of sexual assault.
  • 19:13: Here is some info about Brock Turner. This is actually a link to a letter read to the court by the victim. It is really hard to get through but incredibly important.
  • 20:53: Camille Cosby whyyy?!?!
  • 23:06: Here is a link to Barbara Bowman’s article for the Washington Post.
  • 25:04 Here is a link to our episode on the USAG scandal. Give ‘er a listen!
  • 26:17: Back in 2014 the Cosby Camp ill-advisedly created a meme generator to try and drum up some Cosby love. It backfired.

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Pronouns

In this episode Jessy and Rebekah review a menstrual cup that allows you to have sex with the partner of your choosing while you’re on your period without ruining anyone’s sheets! And then WTMV welcomes their first guest, Lucy Frank! Lucy is about to graduate from Duke School of Nursing and visited WTMV to talk about appropriate use of pronouns in a medical scenario and, really, in life. And then Jessy, Rebekah and Lucy played a celebrity themed drinking game with T-Rex arms? You’ll have to listen for details.

0:39: Jessy and Rebekah (but mostly Jessy) offer a completely unpaid review of SoftCup. It’s great. We (mostly) love SoftCup. But, Dear SoftCup, please sponsor our podcast. Okay thank you.

5:00: We spent quite a bit of time trying to figure out why the Diva Cup dries you out. The SoftCup box says that SoftCup is one of the only products that doesn’t dry you out but, despite the fact that Rebekah has experienced the drying-out effects of the diva cup, she cannot seem to find corroborating evidence. More research will be done and we will share our findings. But this is one area in which the Internet has failed us.

7:40: Rebekah’s sister Lucy comes to WTMV to talk about the appropriate use of pronouns in the world but, more specifically, in a medical context (FYI: she’s a nurse). Welcome to Welcome to My Vagina, Lucy!

15:30: Watch Jessy’s amazing video called “Intersex Basics.” It’s all about the fact that gender exists on a spectrum and how people oversimply everything to make it easier to fit those they interact with into neat little boxes. But we all know that life is never easily categorized. People are complicated and that is what makes us amazing. So watch her video.  Also, read Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. Eugenides wrote this book because he was dissatisfied with the way literature and history dealt with intersex anatomy and emotions. Read it and then let’s talk about it.

17:00: Education is key! The more we talk about things, the more people learn and become more comfortable. So let’s keep talking. All the time. About everything. But let’s agree to not expect marginalized populations to do all the work. It’s up to all of us to research and make the effort. That includes nurses, podcasters, bartenders, bankers, politicians, teachers and everyone else.

17:30: Say it with us: being transgender is not a problem.

19:20: “Vanessa Goes to the Doctor.” This video is EVERYTHING.

23:30: Here is a link to Duson Spectrum, the Gay-Straight Alliance at Duke School of Nursing.

24:30: Here is a little information about “Let’s Talk About Sex!” It’s an interactive workshop for healthcare providers and students to get used to, you guessed it, talking about sex! All in an effort to make it more comfortable for the provider as well as the patient.

27:00: Ethan Cicero is awesome. He wrote an incredible, and deeply troubling, article about the barriers to care for transgender people that everyone should read. Seriously. Read it. His efforts have shed much needed light on this issue and are hopefully leading to higher educational standards across the medical community.

29:50: Lucy gives us some really wild statistic about victims of sex trafficking. It’s horrible. We all have to do better but health care providers are oftentimes the only people outside sex trafficking rings that come in contact with victims.

34:40: Hold on to your hats, folks, because Jessy, Rebekah and Lucy play a drinking game! And get drunk. And then go out after the podcast is over and continue having drinks. There was laughter, there were tears, Lucy ate scallop tacos. (This part of the day was thankfully not recorded.)

Swear count: Rebekah Esther “Swears like a Sailor” Frank swore 8 times. She was handily out-swore by Jessy “Potty Mouth” Caron who swore 9 whole times!

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Cyber Harassment

In this episode Jessy and Rebekah get attacked by turkeys on Staten Island, talk about cyber harassment they have experienced and the well-known cases that make them mad/nervous, and then close the episode out by wondering what animal is the rudest. You don’t want to miss it. We promise.

0:30 Jessy an Rebekah get attacked by turkeys!

3:45 We got a really awesome review from a friend! And you guys have all been so great about telling us that you love our podcast! But maybe tell iTunes? Or Stitcher? Please review us or send us an email us at welcometomyvagina@gmail.com and let us know what you think.

5:35 Rebekah makes the best dad joke ever. Do you have a better dad joke? Email it to us. We want to hear from you! PLEASE EMAIL US! OR TWEET US @welcometomyvag!

6:15 Jessy and Rebekah get into the meat of this episode: the cyber harassment that women experience on the internet, starting with a story Rebekah tells of a particular internet troll who used to get drunk and make up email addresses to bother her from. Addresses he would promptly delete after sending rude emails.

8:46 You can, and should, read Rebekah’s blog post entitled “Apparently I’m a Failure” here. But you should also read some of her other stuff.

9:35 Jessy reads a comment that she got on her YouTube page (which you should check out and subscribe to because it’s great and funny and educational). Check out this video specifically: The Dirty F Word.

11:55 Just a reminder about the “sorry jar!” We spoke about it in Episode 6: Sorry Not Sorry.

13:35 If you are going to criticize us, cite your sources. We love well researched rebuttals. But don’t come at us with some bullshit.

15:00 The Duke Lacrosse case. Every time someone questions a woman’s veracity, they almost always reference this case. Here are some articles. And, in fact, the story is far more complicated than the way Rebekah characterized it. The men were exonerated but the accuser still stands by her allegations, as she serves time in jail for murdering her abusive boyfriend. Which is a conversation for another day.

21:10 Here is some information about GamerGate which was the most ridiculous online sexist mob to ever exist. Until the next one.

24:02 Anita Sarkeesian was supposed to give a speech at Utah State University, not the University of Utah. Sorry Utes.

24:20 You should check out everything Feminist Frequency has to offer.

27:15 Rebekah unleashes her somewhat controversial feelings about the First Amendment. Let us know your thoughts. Email us!

28:25 Check out our podcast about Gun Violence and Domestic Abuse if you missed it.

30:30 Jessy and Rebekah ask each other funny questions! Some of them involving birds! Now that is what we call coming full circle. But seriously, seriously. How many chickens would it take to kill an elephant? Email us your thoughts at welcometomyvagina@gmail.com

Rebekah’s Swear Tally: Rebekah Esther “Sweats Like a Sailor” Frank swore a whopping 23 times. Woah.

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Email: welcometomyvagina@gmail.com

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Patreon: Just look for Welcome to My Vagina Podcast

Jessy’s awesome YouTube videos! She’s crushing it

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Rebekah’s blog!

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Sorry Not Sorry : Women Apologizing

In this episode Jessy and Rebekah play a few rousing rounds of “Would You Rather,” introduce the Welcome To My Vagina Sorry Jar (all accumulated apology money will be donated to a women focused charity!) and talk about why women apologize so much. Sorry. We’re just so very sorry.

0:30 Let the “Would You Rathers” begin! Please reach out to us via email, direct message, phone call or text and let us know what you would rather do, tan plaid or sweat cheese?? WE HAVE TO KNOW! (Sorry for yelling.)

0:45 Jessy accidentally said vagina instead of vulva! Why does this matter? Listen to our first episode, “Vulva Shame,” to find out! Sorry, we don’t mean to be pushy.

4:42 Sorry you kicked me.

11:00 Introducing (drum roll please) the Welcome To My Vagina Sorry Jar! Where should we donate it?? Email us and give us your suggestions!

15:10 Our super awesome producer Cait paid us a visit and, as if she knew exactly what to say to advance the message of our episode, she apologized! Multiple times! Best producer ever.

16:46 Because we brain farted big time while recording, Cecile Richards is the (now retiring) president of Planned Parenthood. Sorry, Cecile. We love you. And we loved your mom.

22:30 For the first (but certainly not last) time on this podcast, Rebekah owns up to her absolute love of Brian Lehrer. He is a national treasure and for that she is not sorry.

24:00 “Would You Rather” Part 2!

Rebekah’s Swear Tally: Rebekah Esther “Swears Like a Sailor” Frank swore 6 times in this episode.

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Gun Violence and Domestic Abuse

In this episode, Jessy and Rebekah weigh in on the national conversation about gun violence and wonder why domestic violence isn’t discussed as one of the contributing factors. Your favorite hosts also eat some chips and challenge each other’s knowledge of everything fun, and humorously tragic, with their very first “Did You Know?!?!” Lightening Round. Sit back and enjoy.

Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence:

If you or anyone you know is in a dangerous situation – emotionally, physically or otherwise – with an intimate partner, stalker, family member or loved one – please reach out to one of the following resources:The National Domestic Violence Hotline

This is a 24-hour toll free hotline created through the Violence Against Women Act. You can call the hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

You can also chat with people online by visiting The National Domestic Violence Hotline website at www.thehotline.org

The Hotline also has links to domestic violence relief organizations in all 50 states, Washington DC, Guam, Puerto Rico and St. Croix. To find those resources visit www.thehotline.org

We are recording in Brooklyn, New York. According to the New York State Coalition Against Domestic Violence, in both 2016 and 2017 New York state has the highest deand in the country for domestic violence services. Every single county in New York has at least one agency specifically designed to offer services to victims of domestic violence and their children. The New York State Coalition Against Domestic Violence

This is a 24-hour New York domestic violence hotline. You can call the hotline at 1-800-942-6906

You can visit www.nyscadv.org to find more localized support

For those here in New York City, you can call 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)

In this episode….

0:22:  Jessy and Rebekah eat chips. Chips for gender equality….wait a second…

2:42:  A brief explanation of the information we are presenting and what is missing in the statistics we referenced in the making of this episode

4:00: Rebekah said that the walk-out on April 20th is to mark the 10th anniversary of the massacre at Columbine High School. She misspoke. It will be the 20th anniversary. Columbine happened on April 20, 1998.

10:22: Jessy farted. Kidding, she didn’t It was the chair’s squeaky leather.

10:40: Experts who study domestic violence call it “intimate terrorism,” which is basically the most heartbreakingly accurate name for anything ever.

10:55: Jessy gives an explanation as to why victims of domestic violence don’t “just leave.”

11:50: Janay Rice (nee Palmer) was knocked unconscious in an elevator by her husband, former Baltimore Raven Ray Rice, in Atlantic City in February, 2014. She immediately became, according to the New York Times, “the most famous bartered wife in the country.” The events ignited a nationwide conversation about domestic violence, what should be done and how a battered woman “should” behave or “should” proceed in the aftermath. You can read Janay Rice’s story as recounted to Jemele Hill here.

15:25: Rebekah draws a parallel between sexual assault and gun violence

25:22: “DID YOU KNOW?!?!” LIGHTENING ROUND.

Rebekah’s Swear Tally: In this episode Rebekah “Curses Like A Sailor” Frank swore 6 times.

Further Reading:

Mother Jones’ Guide to Mass Shootings

The Violence Policy Center puts out an annual piece called “When Men Murder Women” that analyzes homicide data. This annual study looks state by state and details all the circumstances of reported homicides of women by men in single-victim/single-offender incidents.

This article in the New York Times called “Control and Fear: What Mass Killings and Domestic Violence Have in Common” is an important read.

Former New York City Mayor Mike Bloomberg started an organization called Everytown for Gun Safety. They are an incredibly active group working towards increased gun control measures. Visit https://everytown.org to learn more about what they do and to access all their studies.

Thank you for listening and we will C U Next Tuesday!

Etymology of Pussy

This episode is brought to you by Teri, AKA Jessy’s mom, who was curious about where the word pussy came from. Well, Teri, we’re gonna tell ya.

0:38 Jessy explains how she victim shamed a giraffe

2:48 You might have noticed that we changed our release day – find out why!

5:00 What are the origins of the word pussy, you ask?

7:22 Pusillanimous, what?! For more on the pussy/pusillanimous connection, check out this 8-pronged take down by the Tumblr user nerdloveandlolz: http://anthrocentric.tumblr.com/post/81621685922/pussy-is-not-short-for-pusillanimous

11:40 Read the full Huffington Post interview with Merriam-Webster’s Kory Stamper: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/where-does-pussy-come-from_us_57fc0968e4b0b6a43034e7ac

18:30 We figured out what ‘Grose’ refers to! In 1785 a man by the name of Francis Grose put out the first edition of the “Classical Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue.” Grose was the first person to collect slang words from all over the world while not limiting himself to the words used by criminals. Grose and his assistant Tom Cocking (hahaha) would walk around London at night and collect slang words that they would later compile into a book. Throughout the 19th century the Vulgar Tongue was recognized as the English slang dictionary and it strongly impacted all future dictionaries of its kind. So, Grose and Cocking, partners in slang.

26:00 Need to know more words for pussy? We got you covered. It’s a pussy war up in here!

Want to ask a question?? Email us at welcometomyvagina@gmail.com and ask away! We’ll do some research and talk about your question in one of our future episodes. Also find us on Instagram at welcometomyvagina and Twitter @welcometomyvag. Subscribe to Jessy’s videos on her Welcome To My Vagina YouTube channel and check out the website, welcometomyvagina.com. Read Rebekah’s blog at franklyrebekah.com.

TAMPON TAX!

Things are about to get messy. Jessy and Rebekah dig into Tampon Tax and how it affects the wallets of women, who don’t have a choice. First, Jessy tells a short story about a man who’s not too pleased with the word “vagina” (shocker). Don’t worry there’s a happy ending.

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A Girl’s Worth

This week’s episode is a little heavy, but worry not, we break it up for ya.

Jessy tells a story about anxiety dreams.

Rebekah pulls out an impassioned, in-depth look at the scandal rocking USA Gymnastics, the US Olympic Committee and Michigan State University. The take away this week: which cases demand the media’s attention from the jump and which get pushed aside until the 11th hour.

And the relief: a discussion of kittens and super villains to help us cope.

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VULVA SHAME!

Here for the inaugural episode of Welcome To My Vagina, hosts Jessy and Rebekah introduce themselves, their mission, and then delve into the topic of VULVA SHAME!

Look out for the Welcome To My Vagina’s web series mini that will cover what a vulva actually is. Follow the YouTube channel for more fun and informative sex ed videos from Jessy.

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Trailer – First Episode out January 15th!

Introducing Welcome To My Vagina, hosted by Jessy Caron and Rebekah Frank. Destroying the taboo of sex and shutting down misogyny via the black hole of the vagina. A laugh til you queef adventure in sex education made up on the spot, but probably (definitely) researched.

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